Here is my conversation on msn with a submissive from Lavalife.
thomas: hello Ma'am
Domina Jade: hello
Domina Jade: so I granted you permission to chat with me for a bit on msn
thomas: thank you Ma'am
thomas: you are looking for a masochist ?
Domina Jade: absolutely
thomas: as a personal sub to you Ma'am?
Domina Jade: well that option might be available but it all depends
thomas: may i ask on what Ma'am?
Domina Jade: well for one thing I don't want a do-me submissive
thomas: no Ma'am
Domina Jade: When I choose a submissive it will be on my terms
thomas: but i may not like all your likes and do have my own limits...
Domina Jade: well of course and I respect that
thomas: somehow i knew that
Domina Jade: I don't like someone dictating what I can do
Domina Jade: however I will push limits
thomas: you mean not dictating my hard limits Ma'am?
Domina Jade: not quite, it's more like telling me to do this and that without
considering what I want first
Domina Jade: I have disregarded countless 'subs' who launch into what I should do to them, rather than ask what they can do for me
thomas: may i ask what i can do for you first MA'am?
Domina Jade: well I prefer casual conversation for now
thomas: i appreciate that
Domina Jade: I want to know more about you and why you think you can serve me
thomas: well mainly because you are looking for someone who loves pain Ma'am...i love
corporal discipline...up to the cane as my pic is kinda showing
thomas: but i also would like to know about what other things you like to do...im not sure i am capable of those things or they could be things i havent tried or hard limits
thomas: i am also a very nice down to earth man who loves to have fun
Domina Jade: well I enjoy severe cp, strap-on play, slight feminization, trampling, bondage, humblers, medical scenes, play piercing, temp. branding, gs,
Domina Jade: but most importantly I enjoy being spontaneous with my scenes
thomas: i appreciate that...
thomas: I enjoy severe cp, bondage and have not tried the others and would not be interested...sorry
Domina Jade: I am pretty big on verbal and physical humiliation too
thomas: thats acceptable
Domina Jade: well if you are not really interested in the rest as I am then I don't think this will work out. When I am searching for a submissive, I prfer that he enjoys overall the similar activities that I also like
thomas: then you cant be much of a Dominant Woman ....you have no idea what a submissive is then Ma'am...its not only what you like or think ... and appreciate your time...you're right this would never work!!
thomas: take care
So am I the only person to see something wrong here? I am not much of a Dominant woman because I actually express what I am interested in and follow those views? What am I to do, mend my ways just because a submissive does not share similar tastes? Before I could respond back thomas logged off - well in any case he's blocked for his lack of manners towards the end of the convo.
The way I see it, I will not waste my time on someone who is not compatible with me. If he/she does not participate nor has no interest in trying then why should I give him my precious time?? What we had here was a situation of non-compatibility. I would have accepted if we left it at that but no, he leaves an insulting remark that I am not 'domme' enough. Which leaves me to believe he's a do-me submissive afterall. Well better I know sooner than later as I say....